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I’ve become a huge fan of Assassin’s Creed video games and noticed a possible asexual link. The plot of the game is that Desmond Miles is kidnapped by Abstergo because with the help of the Animus DNA can be used to access and relive memories of ancestors. Desmond has particular ancestors that were Assassin’s and an interest to Abstergo.

The first game in the series features Altair and takes place in the Holy Land around 1191 courtesy of the Animus. Not much is known about the Assassin Altair and there is no record of his death. There are even rumors amongst fans of the series that Altair is actually alive in the year 2012. As for Altair’s sexuality, he did belong to an order which would be appealing to an asexual, but he also must have produced offspring in order for Desmond to exist in the first place. Belonging to an order or having children simply can’t be indicator of sexuality one way or another, regardless as any statistics that could be drawn up. Altair’s personal life is never touched upon, so there is no way of knowing.

As an assassin it is Altair’s mission to hunt down what have become historical figures such as William V Marques of Monferrat, Abul Nuqoud, Grand Master of the Teutonic Order, Garnier de Naplouse and others. These assassinations are ordered by the leader of the Assassins, Al Mualim. As it would turn out Al Mualim had sinister intentions all along and Altair must face him in battle. Al Mualim is now in possession of the artifact known as the Apple of Eden that grants whoever holds it great power. One of those powers is the ability reproduce asexually. Al Mualim is able to create at least 7 identical copies of himself. There is also a glitch in the game where an enemy on a rooftop keeps multiplying. That seems like a pretty specific glitch.

In the second game Desmond Miles is broken out of Abstergo to a safe house with a more efficient Animus. This time the memories of Ezio Auditore da Firenze ar accessed during the timeframe of the late 1500s in Italy. Leonardo da Vinci is helpful as is Niccolo Machiavelli. Many other legitimate figures appear in the game including the Medici Family. Unlike Altair, Ezio’s sexuality is very present and he is quite the womanizer. I’m certain there are asexual womanizers out there but Ezio isn’t one of them. Up until he becomes an Assassin, his top priority is bedding beautiful Italian women in his hometown of Florence or wherever he found himself

The finale of Assassin’s Creed II had Ezio holding the Apple of Eden and Borgia the main villain, with a different artifact in the Papal Staff. This time it’s Ezio who uses the apple for asexual reproduction which aids him in victory. This is an ongoing trend in the final battle of both games. Does it even mean anything about the asexuality that I usually write about? Has this blog been a total waste of time being the nonsense that it is? Probably so.

For reil though in the mythology of Assassin’s Creed a former subject, known only as subject 16, has left clues within the animus for future subjects to discover. These clues reveal Adam & Eve, with the Apple of Eden, running in a bizarre, advanced world. The biblical accounts of Adam and Eve’s relationship with the Apple of Eden shed an entirely different light on the aforementioned asexual reproduction which is a recurring phenomenon in the game.
Here is a particular passage from the fall of man of God’s words to Eve:

To the woman he said: “I will intensify the pangs of your childbearing; in pain shall you bring forth children.
-Genesis 3:16

So eating the Apple of Eden held the consequences of painful childbirth, which begs the question of what childbirth would have been like had the forbidden fruit never been eaten. Beings as the Apple of Eden in the game held the power to reproduce asexually, perhaps there is a connection. I would imagine asexual reproduction to be painless compared to the the sexual method. Is it possible that the original design was to have man reproduce asexually? Beings as Eve was created out of Adam’s rib that I would consider asexual reproduction, and that was well before the fall.

As mentioned in the first paragraph Assassin’s Creed is only based on true events. Details are added that aren’t historically accurate. The historical events in the Garden of Eden are embellished on in the storyline of the video game. It’s just a theory of mine I thought I’d like to share. This will not be unresolved as this fall Ubisoft releases Assassin’s Creed Brotherhood, which continues the story and who knows? Maybe my theory will come true. From what I understand the ending of this game is supposedly mind-blowing.

AC: Brotherhood features multiplayer online games, the first in the series to do so. Anyone interested in joining the author for a game or two when this launches feel free to contact me and we can form an asexual alliance. Anyone can preorder Assassin’s Creed Brotherhood and there is also preorder Assassin’s Creed Brotherhood Limited Codex Edition.

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So it’s been over a year since I’ve worked on this project, and honestly I never planned to return. In this community, most are gone as mysteriously as they’ve arrived. As fate would have I’m not going to be one of those individuals. They will have to wrestle my asexuality from my cold, dead hands.

There are a few subjects I’m going to be writing about in the very near future. One of them is an asexual link I found in a popular video game, and I promise to unleash a wild theory in that one. Another is about a character from arguably the top television show of the last decade that is put in a situation asexuals can relate to, although the character is probably not actually asexual. I took Michael’s Jackson’s death pretty hard, probably a lot harder than I should have and I will be writing an article providing new information on MJ.

There seems to be a lot going on in the community in my absence, and I now have computer access once again as my library card has been reinstated after a 1 year suspension. Unfortunately I cannot check out that asexy Youtube channel as the sound will disturb others in this library. That’s what got me in trouble the last time. Perhaps I can visit Kinko’s.


The title of this blog is a line from the movie Transformers 2 in theaters now, and I’m giddy about it. In the video below Ace Amoeba and Hypersexual Billy “Human Highlight” Reil discuss this fact and the film and touch on the character played by Megan Fox. Also, Reil coins the term “Acehole”. Enjoy!


Ace Amoeba has decided to do something different, as I feel the Asexual community is in a bubble. Sure, many of us are friendly in joining forces with the LGBT or LGBTQ community, which seems to be evolving into the LGBTQA community which is fabulous. But what about heterosexuals?

How interesting would it be to take a journey into the mind of a heterosexual, preferably a hypersexual one just to be extreme. Doing this would give the Asexual Community an excellent opportunity to learn more about themselves by means of comparison.

The purpose of this short blog is twofold. Firstly I am looking for a heterosexual to interview. I know some personally, however I’m not exactly out publicly as I don’t feel many would understand Asexuality and I myself don’t totally understand the subject to properly explain it as a whole at this point. So in the rare case that a heterosexual is reading this and would like to lend her or his time and brain to be analyzed it would be most welcome and appreciated. I cannot offer any payment at this point however. Contact me at aceamoeba@aol.com.

Also, I am looking for questions from members of the Asexual Community to help out and send questions to be asked in this interview, assuming it even happens. Please send them to the aceamoeba@aol.com , as opposed to in the comments sections. The reason for this is I want the to ask the questions in a way that the heterosexual has no time to prepare an answer in order to procure an honest, off-the-cuff reaction . I thank you all in advance!


It is with great sorrow that I comment on the life of one of the greatest performers, if not thee greatest performer, the “King of Pop” Michael Jackson. I remember listening to the Thriller album with my mother during the early ages when I was a little boy, and it’s something that we bonded over and I will always associate his music with being with my mom. This album included hits like Beat It, Billie Jean, The Girl is Mine and of course the title track Thriller. The thirteen-time Grammy winner knew no other life than to entertain and at age fifty, his life ended today.

I’m physically sick and the only thing that’s holding me together as I type this is that he we will always have the music that he made for us from the Jackson Five through his adult life up until his death and probably well after this tragedy.michael_jackson-thriller-cover I recall very vividly in kindergarten at Cedar Grove Christian School bringing in for show in tell a version of the rhinestone glove that was one of his trademarks. Another memory is the first time I saw the Thriller video, and that was a major event. It wasn’t like today where we have On Demand and Youtube, technologies that allow us to watch anything anytime. In the 80’s we all got together to watch Thriller on an old-fashioned VCR with a bulky VHS tape. The short film blew me away and I watch it at least once a year during Halloween. I also remember the debut of the video for Black or White, airing on the Fox network coupled with an In Living Color episode.

When 16-bit Sega Genesis was first released, they went around malls across the USA promoting with festival events, and I was chosen to compete in a moonwalk. While I ultimately lost as I did not have the best moonwalk, the 1000 in attendance reacted positively to me punctuating the move with Jacko’s signature “a-hee-hee-hee”.

Even in the early 2000’s myself and friend would karaoke Black or White as a performance to our date that evening. This would lead to an incredibly ace moment that I don’t care to disclose at this time.

I’m going to go out on a limb and admit something I suspected all along. This will also give the asexual community something to think about, something I wanted to bring up before, but didn’t want to open up a can of worms. Today seems like the appropriate time to do so. I believe Michael Jackson was asexual, and I say this for several reasons.

First, I recall in music class in grade school at Ancille-Assumpta Academy, a Blue Ribbon School that received this honor from George H.W. Bush, being told something about Jackson. According to my teacher, Jackson’s hormones were intentionally stunted by his father so he could keep his wonderful voice into adulthood. I don’t think I need to familiarize readers with Michael’s high-pitched voice. Even is Michael Jackson wasn’t born into Asexuality, he certainly was manipulated into it.

The other reason behind this comes out of the child molestation charges, charges which he was found not guilty of on all accounts. Believe what you want, but I feel he never sexually abused any children because he didn’t have any sexual feelings. Perhaps he was an asexual pedophile. I bring up this quote from an interview of Jackson’s, in which he speaks of his relations with young boys.

“When you say bed, they make that sexual. It’s not sexual. We’re going to sleep, I tuck them in and put a little like, er, music on and when it’s story time I read a book and we go to sleep with the fireplace on. I give them hot milk, you know. We have cookies. It’s very charming. It’s very sweet. It’s what the whole world should do.”

Now this was taken as very creepy indeed, much for the reason Jackson brought up about the relationship between a bed and sex. If the world understood Asexuality at this time, not that it is very understood or even known about today, then they would have a better understanding of Jackson’s intentions.

This brings up something that the asexual community will eventually have to as a collective unit come up with an answer to concerning ethics. Is it OK to have asexual, albeit romantic, relations with between adults and children? My gut reaction would be no because children could be taken advantage of in other ways as they’re minds aren’t fully developed and deserve a childhood. I am not, however, an authority on ethics for the masses, but personally I know it would not be moral for me to do it at least and I’m romantically attracted to adults anyway. I do believe children do need more rights than they currently have, but that’s an entirely different issue.

This is something the asexual community need to address, and it would be far better to address it sooner rather than later. The last thing we need is to be looked at as immoral in any way, and taking a stand on a potential negative stereotype is both urgent and imperative. Somebody had to bring it up before this shows up on the fringes and nobody understands Asexuality like asexuals do.

In closing, Rest In Peace to Michael Jackson. He touched our hearts are my thoughts and prayers go out to his family, friends, animal companions and the rest of his fans. Anyone critical of the “King of Pop”. I leave you with words from one of his later tracks.

“Before You Judge Me, Try Hard to Love Me!”

I love you Michael Jackson and I will never forget the love you’ve shown the world through your music and charitable work.

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It needs to be made clear that I am not in anyway suggesting that there are people in a dark room plotting on how to implement sexual programming, but rather a paradigm of social constructs that basically polices itself. If someone is not sexually attracted to the opposite sex they do not fit in with these social constructs. In addition, it not enough to be attracted to the opposite sex, but certain typecast a model if you will, of the respective opposite sex.

The evolutionary process benefits those who have traits that will make them reproductively successful. Those who are reproductively successful will have more children who will have or carry those very genetic traits that made their parents reproductive. These children are more likely to go on and reproduce to a greater extent when compared to the offspring of a couple with genetic traits that are not as strong in those regards. With this logic in mind, the types of people that have ancestors with greater reproductive traits should be most common. The types that do not will be tougher to come by.

Asexuals, while just as vulnerable to fall for the hetero-normative sexual programming, at least have the red flag of not experiencing sexual attraction at all. Heterosexuals do not have this red flag, but they do have a many suggestions for how they are supposed to be heterosexual, which can seriously stunt individuality. Asexuality, with more clarity as to the difference from the hetero-normative way, hasn’t had a prescription on how to feel in accordance to sexual attraction. This is a stimulus package for individuality.

The closest thing to a red flag heterosexuals have, other than the vision of what they are truly attracted to, would be that what they are “prescribed” to find sexy, which is not the common person but a model. Models have a look, and it is a rare look that does not suggest a successfully reproductive ancestry. Obviously, even a supermodel’s family tree had a level of reproductive success proven by the existence of said supermodel. This level of success cannot be much better than minimal or else there would be a greater number of persons with those traits.

There are many different types of genetic traits including physical and behavioral. Much of what I’m discussing here is inspired from Roin Baker’s scientific papers as well as his book Sperm Wars. I intend to get a hold of more of Baker’s work, but what I have read does an excellent job of breaking down sexual matter in asexual terms. Baker explores the reproductive strategy of just about everything in humanity and the animal kingdom. He does not explain or make reference to Asexuality, although we must have some reproductive strategy if we we’re born in the first place. I have some insight on what that strategy is, and that’s a topic for another time.

It is just as important to be attracted to reproductive traits as it is to possess them. One can be as legitimately sexually attractive as possible, but if that individual has bad taste in partners, than this may hurt reproductive success for future generations.

So what is the archetype for the heteronormative woman and male as compared to their naturally attractive counterparts? Let’s take a closer look. In the sexual world, and possibly even the asexual world to a lesser extent, physical traits are more to men than women. This is a double standard, but it’s not without reasoning. thinWomen’s role in reproductive success, while changing due to positive progress, historically has existed to carry children in the womb, deliver and raise them properly. Men have served as providers and protectors.
The female model of heteronormativity is the types of women that strut on the catwalk or win beauty pageants. Extremely thin, lacking curves and behaving “ladylike”. I realize there is a strong counter-culture to this aspect of heteronormativity, but this is not yet the status quo. Just to give an example in 1978 Queen released the song Fat Bottomed Girls. A few excerpts from the lyrics will reveal the spirit of the tune.

Left alone with big fat fanny She was such a naughty nanny Heap big woman you made a bad boy out of me;

I seen every blue eyed floozy (heteronormative archetypes) on the way But their beauty and their style Went kind of smooth after a while;

Fat bottomed girls you make the rockin world go round

Later in the music industry, 1992 to be exact, Sir Mix-A-Lot would release Baby Got Back, which would go on to win both a Grammy and a number one spot on the Billiard 100. This was a more extreme attack on heteronormativity, targeting the magazine industry.

I like big butts and I can not lie You other brothers can’t deny That when a girl walks in with an itty bitty waist And a round thing in your face You get sprung;

I’m tired of magazines(heteronormative?) Sayin’ flat butts are the thing;
Yeah, baby … when it comes to females, Cosmo ain’t got nothin’ to do with my selection. 36-24-36? Ha ha, only if she’s 5’3″.;

Some brothers wanna play that “hard” role And tell you that the butt ain’t gold So they toss it and leave it And I pull up quick to retrieve it So Cosmo says you’re fat Well I ain’t down with that! ‘Cause your waist is small and your curves are kickin’;

To the beanpole dames in the magazines: You ain’t it, Miss Thing!;

Today, this sentiment is more frequent, to the point of influencing heteronormativity. Women with curvature are celebrated, as illustrated by J-Lo, Beyonce and Kim Kardashian. David Jay, the King of Asexuality, from AVEN did a blog where he described a potential asexual TV character wanting the sexual attraction to butts broken down on asexual terms. The best way this can be done is by examining the function and benefits of an ample posterior.

Women with ample hips and rear can use them in carrying child, which is a very important reproductive trait to have. It is also beneficial to survival as studies indicate that it can prevent It’s not as if men look at women with curves and consciously realize this is these are reasons why. It’s their body subconsciously triggering this attraction. Also, this trait aids in prevention of type 2 diabetes and ironically controls weight issues.

I am in no way suggesting that one woman is more beautiful another, as beauty is in the eye of the beholder and therefore subjective. Darwin in his classic Origin of the Species addresses beauty, validating its existence. Darwin also poses the question if God intentionally created the concept of beauty. Darwin doesn’t answer the question, but beauty is indeed part of creation and the answer is obvious. Even an asexual can find anatomy aesthetically pleasing, or should I say ASS-tetically pleasing. How much Asexy cred did I just lose with that pun? It was worth it though.

There rise of virility drugs like Viagra, Levitra and Vasomax is further proof, as men should not need them for the results of legitimate sexual attraction. Ironically, these men may very well be with women they should naturally be attracted to, but due to the sexual programming they are not. These medicines are needed because not only are they not able to tap into their true selves, but because they fantasize about women they are only programmed to find attractive.

The heteronormative model of man is something that is more difficult to understand. This largely due to the double standard I mentioned earlier. While there are some major changes that have been going on in culture, men have, and for the most part still have control over almost everything that humankind can actually control. One result of this, men are generally treated with more respect on the screen. For example full frontal nudity is pretty common with women in film, whereas for men is extremely rare. While women may be offended by the nudity of other women in movies, men are uncomfortable with seeing other males in the same situation.

It should probably be explained the topic of the sexual attraction women have to the male sex organs. Does size matter? Women do look at other traits like personality, height and financial success, but in general women prefer larger penises. If anyone doubts this go shopping for “personal massagers” that double as a substitute for a live penis. The standard size is 7 inches, and many are significantly larger, however the average man does not have a 7 inch penis to work with. Thickness is also important.

The porn industry obviously has no problem featuring men displaying full frontal nudity.cinderella This makes many men feel inadequate as many times these men appear to have well over 7 inches at their disposal and significant girth as well. The reality is that while there are men that are freakishly large in the nether regions(most women cannot handle this), most use the aid of a contraption known as a penis pump that can temporarily enhance the size of the male sex organ. This is possible because the penis is not a bone, contrary to what slang might suggest with the noun boner and the phrase “to bone”. During arousal blood rushes to the aforementioned body part, and a penis pump can unnaturally promote this to a greater extent.

The good news for sexual men “lacking in the packing” is that they too can use one of these pumps, and even if a woman knows it is an unnatural size, the man showed the ability to adapt, which is what natural selection is all about. If a man has this ability, than so may his offspring and the women’s biology knows this and will accept it just the same as a naturally hung male. Also, because it’s blood related, anything that will improve circulation can enhance a man’s gimmick also. My work involves walking several miles a day so I can confirm this to be true, but as an asexual, it’s not really benefiting me and it makes it difficult to walk sometimes. It slows me down and I don’t like that and am looking into creating a harness, but I digress.

So what evolutionary benefit do well hung warriors carry. Pay attention the mushroom shape of the glans, more commonly known as the head. This is actually useful in the removal of semen belonging to another man and therefore increases the odds of a male impregnating a woman with his own sperm as opposed to the seed of other men.

Another thing women look for in men are a well built butt and legs, as both are a sign of good health. A man who is successful, or has the potential to be successful is sexy because it will create a better opportunities for offspring to succeed both financially and reproductively.

This was probably too much information for many of my fellow asexuals, but I suspect some have abandoned this post by now. Obviously anyone alive has some traits that are useful in reproduction or they wouldn’t have been born. Some are just more useful than others at his time. The earth and her conditions along with humanity’s cultures are constantly changing, and so will the reproductive traits that are valuable.

I hope this was a helpful and informative series, and I also tried to make it as fun and easy to read as possible. There was never an intention to make anyone feel inadequate about their bodies and other traits, but reality is reality and I am all about being real.


To continue the theme of the last sexual programming piece, it’s been decided that there will be a sequel and this will be that sequel. Does anyone else find it interesting that what we watch on television and listen to on radio has been referred to very openly as programming? This is not something I realized on my own, this was told to me by someone who wants to remain anonymous, lest I would quote that individual. More ironic is that it’s been called programming my entire life and I’ve never noticed what was right in front of me. That’s how programmed I must’ve been.

Anyway, the majority of the programming gears us towards heteronormativity regardless of what we are predestined to be. This does not just effect asexuals, but heterosexuals as well. Heteronormative programming still effect those who legitimately feel sexual attraction towards the opposite sex. Sexual programming does not brainwash someone into being heterosexual, but rather the heteronormative version of the lifestyle. This is a social structure to be followed even if you’ve been lucky enough to naturally be part of “the acceptable sexuality”.

It is not enough for a man to be man, or a woman to be a woman under the tyranny of heteronormativity. A man must project himself as a specific type of man, and a woman is supposed to take her role as an archtype of a woman that is not necessarily her true self. It’s as if life is all about auditioning for a role in the very television show that will brainwash others. All this to destroy individuality.

There’s an unwritten dress code in the heteronormative world, and if it is violated then you will not be allowed to be part of that world. Simple as that. It is a real law that is really being enforced. If you break the law, you can exist only outside of this world, a world that is nothing more that a fabrication of sexual programming. Long hair on men and short hair on women is generally frowned upon and are only tolerated when it is worn in a way that compliments their respective genders.

It has been proven that humankind’s natural scent is to attract the opposite sex, but the heteronormative way is to cover that up with gender-specific cologne and perfume. Deodorant is a different issue altogether which is about diet more than anything else. There is a heteronormative way to smell. There a heteronormative body to have, and if you don’t have it naturally then it must somehow be attained be any means necessary thanks to more sexual programming. This is serious business. This begs the question that if we are already female or male, then why go any further to represent that. Worse yet, it goes way deeper than already discussed. Not only is there a heteronormative form to which all women and men live up to, there is programming in place to find heteronormativity in the opposite sex to be the most attractive option. That’s exactly what I’m going to talk about in Sexual Programming Part 3.


One of the things about Asexuality that some outsiders cannot grasp is why such a point is being made out of identifying as A. After all, we are making a big deal about something not happening. If we do not feel sexual attraction, then why would there be the need to draw attention to that aspect of our lives? This is this is a fair question. I’ve heard the analogy all over the place that people who don’t follow football don’t organize and identify as Afootballers. While no such group exists, if it were to ever happen afootballers would totally have the right to organize and make themselves recognized, but I digress.

There are actually many asexuals, who also do not understand why other ace would amplify something that they lack. These individuals are perfectly content without being part of a visibility movement. There is no need to be understood. No desire to classify their nonsexual natures as a sexuality in itself. I see no problem with this, and I have my reasons for behaving otherwise, as do those who are organizing the community, Many find it annoying to hear someone identifying themselves as yet another label they now have to refer to us as asexuals in order to appease political correctness. Then there are others who find it downright pretentious as if it were some new-age religion. I never thought that there wouldn’t be misconceptions about Asexuality, and they will continue for sometime. This is a gradual process and it’s going very well, and I would hypothesize that Asexuality is the fasting growing sexuality in the world.

Truth is there are a number of very valid motives for why we would want to make it known who we are. These may not be reasons the aforementioned outsiders will entirely accept, but they are certainly driving forces in why asexuals organize. So here are seven that come to mind.

1-Recognition- by organizing, asexuals are using the tactic of numbers. There is indeed power in numbers. By showing the that there are a significant number of us. This does create visibility and through that recognition, which is important for most. Being recognized as a group brings credibility to an aspect of an individuality.

2-Education- With Asexuality being as misunderstood as it is to so many, great efforts have been made to get information to the proper outlets to make the public aware of what our sexuality actually is. As stated earlier this is something that massive success has been reached in, but it’s only through continued and consistent efforts will the desired scope of visibility be attained. Patience and persistence is the key.

3-Science- While education is a major goal for the asexual movement, there is much we cannot educate about because it is not yet known. There are various theories about Asexuality and many of them have merit, but untested that can only be regarded as speculation. Qualified professionals using the scientific method can determine definite answers to a good number of the unanswered questions. Let’s hope there is a rise in the number of studies being done, because there aren’t many in the books at this time.

4- Support- being able to relate to others about an issue that otherwise was dealt with alone is experienced freedom. Having others to share the heartbreak and triumphs of being ace is therapeutic and can change us for the better. The community is definitely a blessing for the support system in place and a very warm and welcoming group at that. It’s an easy place to make friends and makes one happy to be an asexual. Support for asexuals is only one benefit, organization will give friends, family and partners of asexuals an outlet to understand and learn about those that they love.

5-Political- at an estimated 1% of the population, but probably significantly higher, you wouldn’t think that asexuals could attain much political sway, but organizing politically is actually a smart idea. First, it’s visibility. Second it’s a message that asexuals vote. Since much of the population doesn’t vote, this brings our political presence to a higher level and we occupy say five percent of the vote. Five percent of a vote is enough to get a 3rd party respectability, media attention and even a spot in some debates. That five percent can easily double, triple more if we not only vote, but also tap into our personal contacts and use our sphere of influence to capture more clout. Being politically active asexuals can be a powerful tool.

6 -Partners- Romantic asexuals often desire to be in relationships with other asexuals. The network that has formed is making it easier to find eligible ace to date. Without organizing, it would be nearly impossible to find others who are A. Even with the community that currently exists, it’ extremely challenging to find a compatible mate. Further community organizing will make this easier and easier.

7 – Reaching Others- The majority of those who would probably identify as asexuals do not even know about the community, and they would be much happier if they did. If there are 7 billion people on the planet then that would mean there are 70 million asexuals on Earth. So many have yet to discover asexuality, and that is the frontier of expansion. Our “manifest destiny”! Finding a community one can relate to is a turning point in many of our lives and by reaching out to others we are helping others progress into their true selves. There has been a great deal of organization on the internets, and to a lesser extent, the real world. The word is spreading rapidly and the entire scene will experience a surge.

There are of course more reasons to organize, but these seven are the ones I am able to come up with now. If anyone can think of more let me know and perhaps I’ll write a sequel in the future.


On an interesting happening, a certain advice columnist and wannabe podcast host who has recently spoke quite ignorantly about asexuals has had his  weekly column left out of my city’s weekly newspaper. Perhaps it was an oversight or maybe it didn’t make deadline, however I’d like to believe that it was intentionally left out due to polite complaints by asexuals and supporters  Time will tell!

In other good news, I was finally able to transfer and continue my career within walking distance of my residence. Goodbye commute! I am going to miss the people I’ve worked with and served for years and will especially be missing a flirtationship I have been having throughout this period. A flirtationship is a rapport with someone that is not a relationship, but does involve consistent flirting over a period of time. Those involved in a flirtationship may or may not want to take it further. It’s not a bad arrangement for an asexual. Many times, flirtationships end when they become relationships. Other times, one or all parties become disinterested and it comes to a halt that way. In this particular case neither of these is the case. It’s all circumstantial. I am not interested in taking it to another level. All good things must come to an end. I don’t actually believe this but it is certainly a good thing that is coming to an end

Reflecting on this experience, I can certainly say that I had an advantage in that sexual tension was on my side, as it usually is in these situations. Still, being cautious was key as there is a line that doesn’t need to be crossed. It’s never a good idea to “heat up” a sexual person unless one plans to make some serious compromises! I’ve made sure to not get too heavy and use all eye contact, facials, and body language in that level of the flirtation. The verbal end of it on my part was playful teasing, about mundane details about personality, clothing, habits, hairstyle, and similar material.

So how does a person behave when a flirtationship ends abruptly like the one in question is about to do. Should I just go about my business as usual and leave unceremoniously? An emotional goodbye that is the antithesis of the casual nature of our time together? Do I call out sick the final week to avoid the situation altogether? Decisions, Decisions, oh what a ponder!

All I can do is use the one thing that will never fail me. Asexual Prowess. I’ve discovered that I have sharp asexual prowess that I can use to solve problems like this. By going with what feels natural, my asexual prowess kicks itself into motion. Through asexual prowess my mind will be in the clear and I will maintain a calm outlook to aid in the all important decision-making process.


Earlier today, I agreed to go out on a date. It would seem that I have an admirer nearby, however I’ve no idea who it is. A neighbor set up the idea, which is all it is at this point, like a feeling-out process. Whether this “date” will happen or not isn’t even known at this point, all I know is I’m game. Either way.

The reason I would be willing to do this is not because I want to meet a person who has excellent taste, but to do it for an experience. In the past, before I became comfortable with being asexual, the concept of a date was unappealing because of the overtones it radiates. I’ve had a fair share of encounters and it was as if I had some responsibility to play the appropriate part while on a date, although today I realize that any such expectations would be irrational.

The idea of going on a date with a random person that already likes me would seem like a fun night. While I don’t know if this date will even happen, it certainly got my mind thinking about how I would conduct myself. I am not assuming that this is a sexual person, for all I know my admirer could be A..but I dream! In the case this person is sexual, well I’ve got a few ace cards up my sleeve.

Many times sexual individuals will try to change asexual people, and I’m prepared for this to happen at any time. To officially make this a piece about sports, I’m going to quote the adage “The best defense is a good offense”. Why do asexual people have to be the one that get changed? I will be able to figure out if my admirer is sexual before she figures I’m an asexual, so I could try to change her before her even knows what’s going on. I would have to be so charming that she would forget about sex, and that’s a reasonable objective.

I certainly don’t have to worry about sex on a first date as “etiquette” would put sex on the third date. This probably isn’t followed in the dating world, but it can certainly be taken advantage of by ace. The luxury of knowing that you have a fee dates before sex is “supposed” to happen is refreshing to know.

Flirting, of course, will be present on a date, and that is something that shouldn’t necessarily be especially a problem for ace. Sexual and asexual individuals both share diversity when it comes to many things including flirtation skills. Some of us are born with it, for the others it can be learned.

Body language is something to pay attention to and also something to project as well. This can be learned with practice also. In the case of sexual tension, that is something that ace can use to their advantage. The aforementioned 3-date etiquette leaves much wiggle room for ace to be ace. The first two dates are homecourt advantage for asexuals, and that is plenty opportunity to charm someone into becoming addicted to a personality and/or forgetting about all things sexual altogether.

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